I wrote this letter when my first son was a baby, and I originally published it on my first blog. I started Absolutely Cheri while nursing my second baby, and I had a lot of the same emotions. My husband had a better understanding with our second baby but I don’t think men will ever truly understand what us mothers go through in pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding. I also want to note that while this letter is blunt and straightforward, I wrote it with a light hearted tone. My husband is an amazing man, and he was very helpful through my pregnancies and breastfeeding our baby boys.
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Dear Husband of a Breastfeeding Wife
Do you know what your wife does all day? She feeds your child WITH HER BODY. Breastfeeding is really hard work. This little creature who grew inside her for 9 months is still depending on your wife for all of its nutrition and hydration. It takes a lot of time and energy to sustain the life of a little one.
You may have been told that newborn babies nurse every 2-3 hours. What they didn’t tell you is that the baby might not grow out of this for a while. Your baby might nurse every 2-3 hours for an entire year or more (this could mean your wife spends over 4,000 HOURS nursing your baby in its first year of life).You also shouldn’t be fooled into believing that your wife does has 2-3 hours of free time in between feedings. In reality, your baby might want to nurse even more frequently for the whole first year of life.
Consider This Scenario
Baby starts nursing at 10am. Baby nurses for 45 minutes. Your wife tries to put baby down at 10:50am. Baby wakes up at 11 am with a dirty bum. Mom (aka your wife) changes the baby’s diaper and outfit because the poop got EVERYWHERE.
What You Can Do To Help