After we had our first baby, we knew we wanted another right away. Shortly before we conceived again, my husband suggested that we should wait till our next baby’s birth to find out of we would have a daughter or another son. Normally I’m not a huge fan of surprises. I like to know what is coming my way ahead of time. But this was to be our last baby so it was a once in a lifetime surprise. I agreed to wait!
It was definitely challenging to not find out but the excitement was far greater. When my belly got bigger and I was obviously pregnant, everyone I spoke to would ask “what are you having.” I would tell them that I was waiting till the big moment to find out. Most people reacted completely shocked that someone would wait.
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How To Prepare For A Baby If You’re Not Finding Out The Gender
The question I got the most was how can you prepare if you don’t know the gender. If we had a boy, we already had most of the clothing and supplies we would need. If we had a girl, I could use my Amazon Prime and order a slew of girly things. They would be delivered before we even returned home from the hospital. Everyone suggested just buying gender neutral clothes and such but I’m just not a fan of yellow for boys or green for girls. I’m definitely a blue for boys. pink for girls mom.
I actually made two lists on Amazon to prepare. One for a boy and one for a girl. Baby would need a car seat either way. I just wasn’t sure if it should be pink or not! I wanted other things as well. It was fun picking out two of everything and not knowing what one we would get. Here’s a peak at my boy and girl lists:
The further along I got in the pregnancy the easier it was to not know. I thought the tension would build but I just knew we were getting closer to finding out. I was truly tested at my 20 week anatomy scan. My toddler was about 18 months old and the novelty of seeing baby on the ultrasound wore off quickly. My husband had to take him out about half way into the scan. It would have been so easy for me to cheat and have the nurse tell me if I was going to have a boy or girl. But I kept my head turned when she told me to and I stayed strong. As I said, it was my husband’s idea not to find out but it was this moment when I knew it was what I truly wanted as well. It was actually a lot easier than I expected it to be. I told my husband, doctor, and every one else in the room that I wanted to be the one to announce it. When he was out, the doctor turned him around before placing him on my chest so I could see. Nothing can compare to the moment he was finally out and I got to say “he’s a boy.”
Have you ever considered waiting till birth to find out your baby’s gender? Or have you experienced it already?