A few things you should know about me, I’m not a religious person. I’m not atheist. I just don’t really spend time thinking about it. In my adult life, I don’t pray or go to church. When people say to “send good vibes” I have always kind of smirked and rolled my eyes. I don’t normally hold any weight in blessings or being blessed.
Earlier this year I was introduced to the book, You Are A Badass, by Jen Sincero. Now I’m rethinking everything. The general premise of the book is positive thinking and self love. Appreciating what you have, and if you want something you don’t have, believe you have the ability to do what it takes to get it. Loving yourself for who you are, or becoming a person that you love. It’s not necessarily religion. It’s positivity and believing in yourself.

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You Are A Badass

I decided to put this to the test. We were trying to sell our house that was a bad decision to buy in the first place. We had about 25 showings in just over a month. We had turned down a low offer that we got from the second showing in hopes that we would get a better offer. More that 20 showings later and still no better offer. Then we had a week of no showings and we were getting really discouraged. This is when I read You Are A Bad Ass. Instead of passively waiting for a good offer, I started telling myself that we would get more showings and the offer would come. I kept packing and cleaning. In a few days we got a call that a showing was scheduled for the afternoon. All morning as I was cleaning and preparing, I kept telling myself, my kids, my husband, and even my dogs that this was it. They would love the house and they would make a strong offer.

 Then It Happened

They came, they saw, and they LOVED the house. That actually might be an understatement. They stayed almost 30 minutes past their scheduled window to see the house. The next morning, they requested to see the house again and told our agent that they planned on making an offer that evening. The offer came in at $1,000 over our asking price. But that’s not the best part. Included in the offer was a letter basically BEGGING for our house. They explained that of all the houses they have seen, this felt like home. The neighborhood, the lane, the house and the yard. It’s everything they want.

They still might have loved the house despite my positive attitude about it. Even if it is a huge coincidence, it is very gratifying to think that just by being positive, I was able to accomplish something great. This has lit a fire in me that I’m not sure has ever been there. I’ve never been an overly negative person but I’m definitely guilty of doubting myself and procrastinating. I want to be my best self for me, my husband and my boys. I want to be a badass. 

Another Badass Experience

My next badass moment came at my sister’s wedding. I’m normally a very introverted person. I’ve never been super outgoing. At my sister’s wedding, I danced with my husband, then my dad, then each of my sons. They were all mellow, slow dancing songs. Then while I was nursing my baby at our table, one of the bridesmaids was coming around telling everyone to get up and dance. I quickly told everyone at my table that dancing isn’t for me, and I’m glad I have my nursing baby as an excuse not to.
A couple minutes later my baby decided he was done nursing. Then it hit me. I could sit here and watch the celebration of my sister’s wedding happen, or I could BE the celebration. The DJ was starting to play more upbeat music. All of these people were up and dancing like people do at weddings. I started thinking. What was really stopping me from being up there with them? I was the only thing stopping me. With being an introvert, I feel like I always worry what others think. A big part of Jen’s instruction on being a badass is just being you and not worry what others think. I wanted to try this. I gave my baby to grandma and got up. I danced like I’ve never danced before, especially not at a wedding with tons of people I don’t know. But most of them were up and dancing as well. I realized that they didn’t have time to judge me because they were too busy having the fun that I’ve been missing out on my whole life. I don’t want to be the person that sits out anymore. I want to get up, dance, and be the celebration of just watching it.

Now I Know

Each time I finish another self help book, I feel like I have uncovered a new secret way of living. I definitely felt that way when I finished You Are A Badass. It’s like Jen has revealed to me that the quiet, reserved girl I’ve always been, isn’t who I have to be forever. I have also realized the power of the mind and positivity. Living life positively and appreciatively isn’t just a fairytale. I have big goals and dreams. For the first time in my life I’m not just hoping they will happen, I’m committing to make them happen. I am a BADASS, and it’s about time I started living like it!

What area of your life do you wish you could improve the most?