How To Prepare For A Baby If You’re Not Finding Out The Gender

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After we had our first baby, we knew we wanted another right away. Shortly before we conceived again, my husband suggested that we should wait till our next baby’s birth to find out of we would have a daughter or another son. Normally I’m not a huge fan of surprises. I like to know what is coming my way ahead of time. But this was to be our last baby so it was a once in a lifetime surprise. I agreed to wait to find out the gender!
It was definitely challenging to not find out but the excitement was far greater. When my belly got bigger and I was obviously pregnant, everyone I spoke to would ask “what are you having.” I would tell them that I was waiting till the big moment to find out. Most people reacted completely shocked that someone would wait.

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 How To Prepare For A Baby If You’re Not Finding Out The Gender

The question I got the most was how can you prepare if you aren’t finding out the gender. It really wasn’t that hard! If we had a boy, we already had most of the clothing and supplies we would need. If we had a girl, I could use my Amazon Prime and order a slew of girly things. They would be delivered before we even returned home from the hospital. Everyone suggested buying gender neutral clothes and such but I’m just not a fan of yellow for boys or green for girls. I’m definitely a blue for boys, pink for girls mom.
I actually made two lists on Amazon to prepare. One for a boy and one for a girl. Baby would need a car seat either way. I just wasn’t sure if it should be pink or not! I wanted other things as well like new toys and a few new onsies, even if we had another boy. It was fun picking out two of everything and not knowing what one we would get. Here’s a peak at my boy and girl lists:

I Almost Caved

The further along I got in the pregnancy the easier it was to not know. I thought the tension would build but I just knew we were getting closer to finding out. I was truly tested at my 20 week anatomy scan. My toddler was about 18 months old and the novelty of seeing baby on the ultrasound wore off quickly. My husband had to take him out about half way into the scan. It would have been so easy for me to cheat and have the nurse tell me if I was going to have a boy or girl. But I kept my head turned when she told me to and I stayed strong. As I said, it was my husband’s idea not to find out but it was this moment when I knew it was what I truly wanted as well. It was actually a lot easier than I expected it to be.

The Outcome

I told my husband, doctor, and every one else in the room that I wanted to be the one to announce it. When he was out, the doctor turned him around before placing him on my chest so I could see. Nothing can compare to the moment he was finally out and I got to say “he’s a boy.” It was more than worth the surprise to wait and find out in that moment. I really had no idea which way it would go. Not knowing if we had a son or daughter on the way made those first few moments with my second son even sweeter. I wish we would have waited the first time around as well!

Have you ever considered waiting till birth to find out your baby’s gender? Or have you experienced it already?

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10 Comments

  1. Cait
    Cait on February 2, 2018 at 6:10 am

    these are great tips! we didnt’ find out the gender of our first one until at the shower and after we opened gifts ha. it was a great surprise for our guests!

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  2. Sahar
    Sahar on February 2, 2018 at 6:19 am

    Some great tips! We found out the gender, but we went, as much as possible, with gender neutral — it would make it easier to keep the big items for a second baby even if it turns out to be a boy, and makes giving things away a lot easier, too 😛

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  3. Chava
    Chava on February 2, 2018 at 6:50 am

    I love this! I never find out the gender, not after 6 pregnancies! I love the surprise!

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    • Cheri
      Cheri on February 3, 2018 at 4:20 pm

      That is amazing! It is the best surprise

  4. Kate
    Kate on February 2, 2018 at 11:02 am

    aww, i really wanted to wait and leave the gender as a suprise for my first baby but then when it came down to it i just couldn’t – i needed to know straight away! I have no patience!

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    • Cheri
      Cheri on February 3, 2018 at 4:21 pm

      It’s hard to not find out! I almost gave in a few times

  5. Amanda A.
    Amanda A. on February 2, 2018 at 9:14 pm

    We are currently 31 weeks along and we are not finding out! So exciting!! Whenever anyone asks how are you planning, I just tell them we are planning for a baby!! Can’t wait for that wonderful moment when we find out and meet him/her 🙂

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    • Cheri
      Cheri on February 3, 2018 at 4:21 pm

      You won’t regret it!!! It’s seriously so special!!!

  6. Kimberly
    Kimberly on February 6, 2018 at 1:19 pm

    Great post for buying for someone who doesn’t know gender either

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  7. Emma
    Emma on May 29, 2018 at 3:15 pm

    The ultrasound revealed it was a girl and we had PLENTY of pink around the house… So it was a HUGE surprise to have the midwife put my baby in my arms and look down to see we actually had a boy!! (Yes, even with modern technology, this can happen) It was so shocking and delightful that we’ve decided to not find out the gender the next time we have a baby 😊

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